Codependency: Don’t Worry About Me.

I often ask myself if I am okay. Most of the time I don’t wait for the answer because this world is so crazy busy that I don’t take time to stop and listen to my body, mind, or soul. If you’re like me, this episode is a great episode to stop, drop, and scroll. Stop what you are doing, drop into a chair, and scroll into the app of your choice that you use to listen to Unashamed Unafraid. You’re not going to want to miss this one. James and Steven sit down and talk with “Magic” Marc. 

Marc Pimsler, is a man who’s been gifted with a big heart and does a lot with his gift. He’s willing and able to sit in a room with you and mourn with you, laugh with you, cry with you, and help you through the issues in your life. After all, we all have a ton of issues to work out. Sometimes, our issues need a good therapist like Marc. This is why we call him Magic Marc. In this episode, Marc dives into the term, codependency. What does it mean? Why do we talk about it? And how do we know we have it?

Codependency has been a word that has “plagued” the psychology world for some time. They first started talking about it in terms of co-addict. When that term seemed too harsh they came up with codependent. This means that you are making yourself (emotions, needs, wants, etc) small in order to allow someone you care about to get their needs, wants, and desires met. Magic Marc states, “Being codependent is for me to regulate my needs in order to take care of you.”

So, what does this even mean? If you’re a connected person who allows your emotions to exist and tries to understand them, then you’re not experiencing codependency. He calls being codependent as having the “duck effect.” You appear to be calm, connected, rooted, etc, while under the surface you’re dysregulated, disconnected, and discombobulated.

Some of the physical signs of being disconnected include hypertension, lymes disease, autoimmune disorders, etc. Marc says, “Most physical symptomatology has its root in the emotional space.” This is an incredible realization for me. There is so much information in this episode that I am going to have to listen to this several times.

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