Whatever your position on Valentine's Day as a holiday, there's no denying the cultural charge of romantic expectation around us. That charge can work wonders, lifting us to romantic heights and hormonal bliss — when it’s working. But what happens when it’s not? What happens when the spark is gone, the romance stifled, the marriage over? What do you do when you run into your first post-divorce Valentine's Day?

This week on the show, we turn to you. How did you handle your first Valentine’s Day after your divorce? First things first, we learned to redefine our terms: Valentine’s Day is, of course, not the only emotionally-charged day you’ll have to weather after your divorce. But it is the one with the most cards telling you to go love up someone, so that’s where we landed. Stories from listeners who've done it and care enough to share this week in the Toaster.