Selfish. It's a powerful word and a label that many women fear when we focus on our business success or self-care. But why is that?


With her new book, "Selfish," Naketa Thigpen wants to challenge that, "change the conversation, and redefine the terms used to make so many women play small."


Naketa is considered the number one balance and relationship advisor globally, a licensed clinical social worker whose expertise in trauma and psychotherapy has informed the basis of her professional career over the past 25 years. Her company, ThigPro, advises couples on having a happy marriage while also growing a business. One of the keys to success? Women need to work on their relationship with themselves before deepening their relationship with their partners.


In her work, Naketa noticed that when women entrepreneurs focus on their business and start to succeed, their relationship with their partner sometimes suffers.


We dive into why women always seem to be the ones addressing relationship issues and why Naketa only works with brave men who are willing to show up, take responsibility, and do the work.


We also explore how trauma can cause disembodiment and how that can hinder our relationship with ourselves and our partners.


Naketa shares her own experiences with trauma and how she had to build a business while simultaneously dealing with past trauma. She encourages listeners to acknowledge and accept their own trauma stories and to take responsibility for their healing, urging us not to compare and belittle our traumas.


Listen to this fascinating discussion on accepting ourselves as multifaceted individuals and “Living in the space of “And.”



This week’s Joy:
Naketa’s joy comes from those small, deeper connections with family, currently online via video communication. Zooming with her grandbabies brings her joy!

This week’s Hustle:
Naketa shares her formula for joy:

Balance + healthy relationships x intimacy(²).

Listen to the episode for her full formula breakdown!


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