Isabelle & David welcome Isabelle’s husband, Bobby, and David’s childhood friend, Ashley, who both also have ADHD. Isabelle describes how feeling singled out due to her academic strengths led to her being bullied. She recognizes now that a lot of the things that were what she was picked on relate to her ADHD, like talking impulsively (and a lot), not picking up on certain social cues, feeling a few steps behind people socially. Ashley relates to this and names that girls 12-20 can be especially cruel. David felt that Isabelle presented as a super cool person. Also, David is a super cool person: he has tattoos, facial hair, and knows about psychology. Bobby just checks one of these boxes. The four take turns offering advice to their younger selves (following Back to the Future time travel rules). Ashley recommends learning math (sarcastically). Isabelle names that the things that make you shine are often the things people get picked on and kids aren’t ready for. David says it’s going to be hard and you have to practice tolerating frustration (he wouldn’t want to be told it’ll work out because then he’d stop trying). Bobby shares he would say to care less what people think and know what you’re worrying about now won’t matter. And David names that when it’s hard that is not the place to stop, it’s the place to keep going.

How Time Travel in Fiction Works: Not the spider article (someday...I will find it!) but a link to a Mental Floss article that also shows the Minute Physics video — it has a lot of cool diagrams explaining how time travel works in various fictional books and movies. You’re welcome for your new internet rabbit hole.

Frustration Tolerance - this is directly related to how much BS/or annoyance we can take for any given situation. The way we build it is by practicing tolerating the BS/annoyance. One of the more basic examples of this, would be getting used to being in the car for long drives by taking long drives in the car.  Yes, even the idea of building a tolerance to frustration can require building your frustration tolerance.

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cover art by: Sol Vázquez