What really happened when we set out to make a podcast…over a year ago. Isabelle explains why this project is just now starting to come together (thank you pandemic, cross country move, and yay new baby!). David explains that he wanted to check in but didn’t. They both realize they were shame spiraling, and David drops a truth bomb on how to cope with shame, guilt, and anxiety: gratitude. The trick is it has to be specific, actual gratitude. How does this work? We get reinforcement when we ruminate on shame and guilt. Gratitude gives you MORE reinforcement, so it works as a quick substitution! Isabelle and David also figure out that the want the podcast to model a roundabout, circuitous route to how they make decisions and understand concepts and that they can trust that part of the magic is letting the listeners in on the process, as well as the product. People that know us, love us, and members of the ADHD community join us to come on the journey together to normalize living with ADHD, breaking myths, misperceptions, and neurotypical story arcs. Because sometimes you have all the accommodations in the world and then a pandemic happens. Acknowledging that starting and finishing are some of the hardest parts of ADHD; and because there is no movement until starting happens, let’s make this the start. 

A social worker and researcher who blew the world of psychology up with her very vulnerable TED talk on her research on vulnerability and shame back in 2011 (see below for a link to it as well as a follow-up TED talk) — also author of many great books; a good start/quick read is Gifts of Imperfection.

Listening to Shame

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cover art by: Sol Vázquez