If your ability to maintain your intimate relationship with your partner is one of the bumps on your road to divorce, then you need to keep listening because today we’re taking on one of the big ones: your sex life.

Dr. Janet Williams is a specialist in obstetrics and gynecology and member of the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health. And, as the author behind Why Don't I Like Sex Anymore: The Grown Woman’s Guide to Getting Your Groove Back and Claiming Your Truth, she’s just the right voice to help guide us through reclaiming balance in our sexual relationship. 

Sex is a bio-psycho-sociological connection. It’s completely normal for interest in sex to ebb and flow through a couple’s life together. The real question, as Dr. Williams explains, is why. What is your orgasm gap, the difference in your relative levels of joy from sexual interaction? There is no normal but instead a range of behaviors and physiological reasons why some people may be drawn to certain things. Your goal, to rebuild your level of intimacy, is to discover why you have a desire-libido mismatch.