{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"I Hate You. What's For Dinner? ","title":"Ep 17 - Healthy Disappointment: What It Is and Why It Matters","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3790,"description":"At its most distilled, disappointment is just noticing a negative difference between what we expected and what actually happened. It’s a moment for recalibrating our expectations and learning from an experience.\nOf course, we throw a lot of other feelings and experiences into the mix along with that gap, and that’s especially true when expectation and reality involves our kids. \nIn this episode, we theorize about the purpose of disappointment, how it gets twisted up with how we were parented, and how that in turn affects how we raise our kids. We talk about shame versus disappointment, the paradox of controlling what you can while knowing you have very little control, and how to acknowledge our disappointment while maintaining an open attitude with our kids.  \nListen to the full episode to hear:How disappointment often brings up shame, helplessness, anger, and anxiety directed at yourself and your kidThe often tricky relationship between performance and the right to be lovedHow healthy disappointment recognizes the varied factors at play and releases excessive illusions of control over a situationPsychoanalytic and evolutionary perspectives on why we feel disappointmentHow parents can approach disappointment with more curiosity and less projection\nLearn more about I Hate You. What’s For Dinner?\nLearn more about Gillian Boudreau, PhD.:WebsiteInstagram @clearconnectionpsychology\nLearn more about Rob Galligan, PhD.:Instagram @dr.robert.galligan\nResources:The Drama of the Gifted Child: The Search for the True Self, Alice MillerEp 06 - Trickle Up!: Ron Williams On Purpose, Legacy, And Spreading Abundance","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/D3tBXD86835pt7yVRDNdUrgGmElQKj6Sry24ZfP4t6o/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8zZTAz/ZTZmNTMzN2QzM2Iw/N2JjNzNlMzQ3ZTlm/OGQwNS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}