{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Toddler Toolkit","title":"Before You Call Them a Bully: What’s Really Happening in Sibling & Friend Power Struggles","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":994,"description":"Before You Call Them a Bully: What’s Really Happening in Sibling & Friend Power StrugglesThis episode is part of a 4 Part Valentine's Series! Click the link below to listen 🎧🎧 Episode 1 — Why Siblings and Friends Spiral Faster Together (It's not Bad Behavior)🎧 Episode 2 — Which Role Does Your Child Fall Into? (It’s Not What You Think)🎧 Episode 3 — When Play Makes Things Worse: Protecting Your Child Without Breaking Connection 🎧 Episode 4 — Before You Call Them a Bully: What’s Really Happening in Sibling & Friend Power Struggles(this episode)🎉New YouTube Channel🎉: @TheHeatherSchalk\"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!In this episode, we discuss misunderstood child behaviors, focusing on 'the bully.' Learn how kids' roles in sibling and peer dynamics are actually nervous system strategies. Explore how behaviors like screaming, grabbing, and having meltdowns are survival responses, often misinterpreted as mere bad behavior.I break down how roles like the rule keeper, attention seeker, fixer, and attuner interact and how pressure from these roles can cause a defending child to react strongly ('The Defender'). This episode is a deep dive into understanding the root causes behind what we see as problematic behavior, offering insights into improving relationships and emotional regulation.00:00 Introduction to Relationship Dynamics00:15 Understanding the 'Bully' Label00:33 Nervous System Strategies in Children01:07 Common Behavioral Responses01:36 Series Recap and Episode Overview02:42 The Role of the Defender04:12 Attention Seekers and Defenders05:59 Fixers and Defenders06:56 Attune Children and Defenders09:27 Misinterpretations and Manipulation10:52 Emotional Reactions and Adult Responses14:47 Final Thoughts and Upcoming Events------------------------------------------------------\"If...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/CNBeZkfYZ4gDlyE04BT0_xz-qWiZz2KtNqqjx7c7S1I/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS80YmFl/ZWY5YmMwYTk0MjM2/NWNlOGMxMmRmOGEw/ZTM0Ny5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}