{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Know Your Children with Rav Shlomo Katz","title":"12. Do Our Children Always Know That We Love Them?","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/02a9008c\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2919,"description":"Do our kids know we love them… but still not always feel it?\nRav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David take on one of the most sensitive (and real) parenting questions: a parent can be full of love — and a child can still experience “You don’t love me.” How does that happen?\nBuilding off last week’s foundation (that a parent’s love can’t be “perfect” in the way we wish it could be), we explore:\nWhy a child’s inner world often works in all-or-nothing terms (“If it’s not 100%, it’s nothing”)\nHow “You hate me” is rarely about facts — and almost always about experience\nThe Chassidic idea that inside a “sheker” there can be a spark of truth to redeem (instead of reacting defensively)\nWhy the first move isn’t “fix it” — it’s finding the shoresh (where the feeling is coming from)\nAnd we end with a powerful next step for the series: the importance of verbal love — bituy miluli — especially for parents who struggle to express what they deeply feel.\nA shiur about love, truth, and building a home where children can walk with a real “shield of love”, even when life gets messy.\n----------\nFor more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com\nJoin Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_t\nChapters\n00:00 Opening & Sponsorship Acknowledgements\n01:26 Today’s Question: Do Children Feel Our Love?\n04:39 Three Types of Parental Responses\n05:51 Why Kids Don’t Always Experience Love\n08:28 Validating Feelings vs Arguing Facts\n09:32 What to Do When a Child Says “You Hate Me”\n11:15 Find the Source Before Trying to Fix\n15:24 The Assumption: The Feeling Isn’t “Factually True”\n17:42 The Spark of Truth Inside a Child’s “Sheker”\n22:30 Where Real Insight Comes From\n23:35 End-of-Life Regrets: Work vs Home\n24:45 The Pride of Providing — and What Kids Still Need\n26:16 Obligation vs Love (and how kids read it)\n28:01 If Love Were “Perfect,” Kids Would Feel It Naturally\n33:31 The Weak Spot: Where Kids Find...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/1kIczSvIsSLQhU43EiAuIwIwZqNhtmqJjeK1o3ZXq5s/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8yYTUw/ODM2ZTE4ZTk5ZWI0/OTFhZTUwYmNkNzli/Y2RlZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}