{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Brad Carr Podcast","title":"How to Know If You Dated a Predator - Peter Salerno & Deb Lieberman","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":5639,"description":"Psychological insights and actionable strategies direct to your inbox: https://bradcarr.transistor.fm/newsletter\n00:00 In This Episode\n00:29 Introducing\n00:41 How to Reflect on Relationships\n03:01 Intrusive Thoughts and Traumatic Relationships\n05:00 The Confusion of Interpreting Manipulation\n06:34 Categorizing Dangerous Behavior\n-Previous interview with Peter: https://youtu.be/3NIPDxiiRrs\n07:00 The Precursor to Healthy Emotional Processing\n10:28 Evolution and the Superstimulus of Love Bombing\n13:21 The Value of Self-Love\n-Interview with Harry Reis: https://youtu.be/PKbyOtxvwJM\n15:04 How Manipulation Damages the Brain\n17:39 Successful People Can Be Targeted\n19:40 Intelligent People Can Be Manipulated\n21:37 Evolution and the Opportunities for Manipulation\n22:35 Traits of People Who Are Targeted\n-Women Who Love Psychopaths: https://youtu.be/i3wk1RdfHiI\n25:37 Agreeableness and Valuing Others\n30:03 Know You're Traits. Don't Pathologize Them.\n31:05 People Who Do Not Value Others\n32:59 The Goal: Recovering from Reality Distortion\n35:55 Introducing the Triangle Tool\n39:26 Triangle: Impression, Behavior, and Explanation\n43:09 The Weight of Confusion and Cognitive Dissonance\n44:28 How to Evaluate the Behavior of Others\n48:10 Graphic: Heider's Balance Theory (Social Psychology)\n48:58 Recognizing Diagnostic Behavior\n53:59 High and Low Diagnostic Behavior\n56:48 Deciding Whom to Trust\n1:00:46 Deeper Explanation of the Triangle Tool\n1:08:49 Role-Playing the Triangle Tool\n1:14:48 Evaluating the Triangle Tool\n1:18:12 Recognizing Intentional Harm\n1:19:32 Repaired Relationships Vs. Partial Repair\n1:20:46 Evolutionary Perspective On Investment In Relationship\n1:23:44 Refining the Understanding of Doubt\n1:25:20 Doubt Doesn't Mean You're Wrong\n1:27:24 find Deb Lieberman & Peter Salerno online\n1:28:18 Peter's Lessons from Doing the Workbook\n1:30:12 Deb's Lessons from Doing the Workbook\n1:32:23 Good Relationships Are Possible!\n1:33:46 Further Recommendations\n-Previous interview with...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/LwS-rxgRJgsV_zmNrspVoEiUnK0DFgimWiDVS6K0GGE/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9iYjZm/MmQ1NzVjMzQ0MGVl/YmFiNjczYWNhYzIw/MDUxYi5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}