{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Something Shiny: ADHD!","title":"Why Emotional Control Is So Much Harder with ADHD (and the Simple Things That Actually Help)","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1650,"description":"If you have ADHD, you’ve probably lost your temper and then hated yourself for it. Snapped at your kid over something small. Flipped the table, at least emotionally, before you even understood why. And then came the familiar spiral: I messed up. I did something wrong. I’m a bad person.\nThis episode is about why that keeps happening, and it’s not what you’ve been told. Your nervous system reacts longer, more intensely, and more frequently to everything. You’re taking more swings in a day than most people take in a week, which means more misses, more rejection, more hits. And the emotional regulation skills you’ve been handed since childhood, sit on your hands, inside voice, calm down, were mostly designed to make everyone else comfortable. David asks the question out loud: if ADHD comes with emotional dysregulation, is emotional regulation just masking?\n\nThen they get to what helps, and it’s simpler than you think. Not more willpower. Not trying harder inside your own head, which Isabelle points out is asking your brain to do something it’s not wired to do when it’s already on fire. Something else. Something outside of you.\n\nIn this episode:\nWhy you’re outraged before you even understand why, and what’s actually firing first in your brain\nThe monkey, the grapes, and what a famous fairness experiment reveals about ADHD rage\nWhy most people get two or three at-bats a game and ADHD brains take 80 or 90\nDavid’s question: is emotional regulation just masking? And Isabelle’s nerdy, honest answer\nThe thermometer problem: why a more sensitive nervous system picks up everything\nWhat actually gives an ADHD brain pause when it’s already on fire\n-------\nWait, What's That? Here are some of the terms and people mentioned in this episode explained:\nMonotropic Focus Isabelle’s term for how her brain holds attention, possibly, she says, the autism in her: one thing in front of her, usually one distraction, and that’s about all the brain is holding at once. One channel, fully...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/Z5oo5dUJtRg1dVvtKIZLx7oln9E4pT6ZxDge5G2XRxA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzIyNDkyLzE2MjUz/NDA2NjgtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}