{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Focus and Chill - productivity tactics for AuDHDers and other neurodivergent folks","title":"Episode 84: Annelil Desille","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2322,"description":"Welcome to episode #84! We’re thrilled to be joined by Annelil Desille today.\n\nAnnelil Desille is an ADHD-registered clinical psychologist who blends lived experience with evidence-based practice to support neurodivergent individuals. Her special interests include neurodivergence, the mind-body connection, sexual health, intimacy, attachment, and spirituality.\nThrough her work, she helps neurodivergent individuals and couples navigate the unique challenges of relationships, task paralysis, self-acceptance, and personal growth. She also runs couples retreats focused on rebuilding intimacy and improving communication for neurodivergent partners.\n\nIn this episode, we discuss ADHD, PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance), neurodivergent relationships, and practical strategies for overcoming daily challenges.\nWelcome to the show, Annelil!\nQuestions\n\nJN: When did you first realize you were neurodivergent?\nIdentified with ADHD in 2018 during a binge-eating trial study\nDiagnosed formally with autism in 2021 after a colleague recognized traits in her\nStruggled with self-doubt but eventually embraced her neurodivergence\nJN: What were some of the biggest challenges you faced in school?\nStruggled with stats (had to take six years of it in her psych degree)\nSevere task initiation issues, leading to all-nighters and procrastination\nExcelled in subjects she loved but found others nearly impossible to engage with\nJN: How did your diagnosis change your life?\nMedication was life-changing—marks jumped from 60s to 90s\nAllowed her to develop self-compassion for struggles she previously blamed herself for\nCreated affirmation decks to help herself and others embrace neurodivergence\nJN: What challenges do you still experience now?\nTask paralysis due to PDA—struggles to start even things she enjoys\nUses the INCU acronym (Interest, Novelty, Competition, Urgency) to overcome task avoidance\nFinds creativity and gamification essential for motivation\nJC: What are you currently working on?\nCouples...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/QZFZQrtBSDhon7MItX8a5mQvkXQ5KKmI2fe6dyhM72o/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzMzNDE3LzE2NjEw/NjYyOTYtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}