{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Raising Men","title":"Practical Tools for Navigating Big Behaviors with Tosha Schore","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3093,"description":"Tosha Schore is a parent educator, author, and the founder of Parenting Boys Peacefully. She specializes in helping parents navigate the \"bad guy myth\" by reframing boy aggression as a signal of fear rather than a character flaw. Tosha provides practical tools for building deep connections and setting loving limits.5 Key Takeaways:Reframing aggression as a communication of fear or lack of safety.The transformative power of the \"Special Time\" practice.Identifying patterns and signs before meltdowns occur.Setting \"loving limits\" rather than using punitive consequences.Using strategic, rough-and-tumble play to breed connection.\"Aggression... it’s not a sign of a bad kid, so to speak, but a signal of a frightened one.\"\"I’m a big like 'zip your mouth shut' coach... 99.9% of the time when we try to like name the feeling... it doesn’t land.\"\"Our strategy is let’s start with our own sweet boys inside our own four walls. If we can create change there... that has a ripple effect.\"00:00 — Why Shame Stops Working00:36 — Shame Is Not a Parenting Tool01:14 — Welcome to Raising Men01:43 — Why Aggression Triggers Fear in Parents02:14 — Aggression as a Signal, Not a Character Flaw02:54 — The Fear Cycle Between Parents and Kids03:03 — Parents Must Regulate First03:43 — You Can Change Your Parenting Patterns04:54 — How One Dad Broke the Aggression Cycle05:37 — When Yelling Makes Everything Worse06:00 — Empty Toolboxes Lead to Harsh Reactions06:23 — Aggression as Communication06:50 — Responding With Curiosity Instead of Control07:17 — Start With Yourself First07:49 — “Good Enough” Parenting08:35 — Building Support Before Crisis Hits09:02 — Strengthening Connection With Your Son09:19 — Boys Are Treated Differently From Birth10:25 — When School Punishment Escalates11:00 — Safety First, Relationship Second12:19 — Repairing Relationships After Conflict13:11 — Why Repair Builds Resilience14:02 — Special Time Builds Connection15:16 — Why Special Time Works16:46 — Letting Kids Lead During...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/2uuITx2j-lZJp2iIhjw55xbaGtfwoyDcHPS-ELTBlxA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9mZmQ1/ZGM3MjJkNTdmODY0/MjE0MmYyYWQzMDE0/ZDhiMi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}