{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"New Hope Church | becomehope","title":"How Do You Forgive Someone Who Hurt You?","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2047,"description":"Final sermon in our forgiveness series. This isn't directly about forgiveness, it's about RESTORATION. But when you restore someone, forgiveness is almost always involved.\nGALATIANS 6:1-5 gives us 5 things to do:\n\n1. RESTORE GENTLY\nUsually when we forgive, we're forgiving an offense against US. That brings up anger. But Paul says: forgive GENTLY.\nLeave your anger at the door. Yes, you're angry. That's okay. But when you talk about forgiveness, that's NOT the time to express your anger.\nStart with FACTS. \"You did this.\" State what happened. THEN talk about feelings: \"When you did this, this is how I felt.\"\nPaul did this with Corinth (2 Corinthians). He stated facts, then explained how their actions made him feel.\n2. WATCH YOURSELF\nWe don't forgive because we're so much better than the person we're forgiving. Frequently we're just as bad or even worse.\nExamine your OWN actions. Even when we forgive, it's very important to set BOUNDARIES.\n3. CARRY THE BURDEN WITH THEM\nIf they ask for forgiveness and you forgive, help them carry the burden of CONSEQUENCES.\nTheir action brings certain consequences. Help them understand those consequences. Walk through Matthew 18 process if needed: go to them, take witnesses, take to the church.\n4. SET BOUNDARIES\nForgiveness ≠ reconciliation. You can forgive and still set boundaries.\nIf they say \"I'm sorry, let's go back to the way things were,\" you can say NO. That's okay. Saying no is a RESPONSIBLE way to respond.\nYou might limit personal contact. They broke your trust. You no longer trust they won't do it again.\nExamples:\n\"We can get together once in a while, but weekly isn't right yet\"\nSetting social media boundaries\nLimiting time/contact\n5. LET THEM CARRY THEIR OWN LOAD\nGalatians 6:2 - \"Bear one another's burdens\" Galatians 6:5 - \"Each man shall bear his own burden\"\nContradiction? NO. Two different Greek words.\nVerse 2: \"Share each other's BURDEN\" (heavy crushing weight) Verse 5: \"Each responsible for own CONDUCT\" (personal...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/QeSOhOM9pdl7ie6YwFiWKrFHSz-rrRbE1NzVv7jCKNA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzIwMDk2LzE2MTc4/MDY0ODctYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}