{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Sword&Spade","title":"Fathers, You Have More Power than You Realize w/ Alexander Hettinga","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3675,"description":"When a thousand women who had abortions were asked who they consulted about the decision, the father of the baby came out first, and by a wide margin the most influential no matter what he said. \nAlexander Hettinga leads the fatherhood and family team at Care Net, a network of more than 1,300 pregnancy centers, and he tells Jason Craig what happens when those men are finally spoken to as fathers rather than handled as the problem.\nIn This Episode, We Cover:\nThe 2015 study that found the father of the baby is both the first person a woman consults about an abortion and the single greatest influence on her decision\nWhy roughly a third of these fathers say nothing at all, and what \"I'll support whatever you choose\" actually sounds like to her\nAlexander's invitation to the father who has raised his own family well and now feels useless against everything else he sees\nWhy Alexander pushes back on the room full of donated diapers, and what he wants pregnancy centers to do instead\nWhat a settled, married father can learn from men starting with nothing, including why the earlier a dad gets involved the better\nResources Mentioned:\nThe Musical Father\nCare Net Fatherhood & Family\nDoctor Dad\nFraternus\nChapters:\n00:00: Introduction\n02:51: A violinist who fell in love with fatherhood\n06:00: The research that put the father at the center of her decision\n09:49: The forty percent who recommend abortion, and one client who had nothing\n17:18: Why serving the father is central, not mission drift\n25:35: Bravado or gentleness, and what actually reaches these men\n31:56: \"You might think you're the Uber driver today, but you're not\"\n34:10: The smoothies that saved lives\n44:37: Fatherhood starts at conception\n57:06: Bach, twenty children, and work-family polyphony\nJOIN 2500+ MEN READING SERIOUS, YET ACCESSIBLE ESSAYS ON VIRTUE, CULTURE, AND LIVING WELL: https://fraternus.org/sword-and-spade/\nProduced by Saint Kolbe Studios.","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/1fxXTM8hCaOlZ1_SUD3cLJ3cmPKvLGnXHcYZar2Vno8/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9kZTI1/ZjhjODE1ZGY4YTNj/OWQxNTMzMzA2Mzcx/MTg3NC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}