{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Salty Pastor","title":"STUCK IN THE PAST","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1061,"description":"Carli Lloyd was 21 years old when her coach told her plainly: you're strong, but you're mentally weak. You're lazy. You don't push yourself. Your character is poor — you make excuses and find people to blame. You always have a reason things aren't working out, instead of focusing on what you can do to change that. Her response in her memoir is worth reading twice: he had just shredded her, and somehow she was fine with it. It was almost as if she had been waiting for someone like this her whole life.\nThat's what being honest with yourself actually opens up. Not shame — clarity. The freedom to stop defending a story that isn't serving you and start seeing yourself the way God sees you: not defined by what happened, but defined by what he can and will do in your life from here.\nBeing stuck in the past doesn't always look dramatic. A young man with a pattern of failed jobs and unfinished degrees — sure that he had resolved the wound from his father leaving when he was eleven. He hadn't. It was showing up as resentment toward authority everywhere he went. Invisible to him, obvious to everyone else. In the same way, anxiety about the future paralyzes people without their realizing it — Jesus addressed it directly in the Sermon on the Mount, speaking to people whose most basic survival needs were genuinely uncertain. Don't worry about tomorrow. Seek first the kingdom of God, and all these things will be added to you. That's not a dismissal of your problems. It's the only reorientation that actually breaks the paralysis.\nSupport the mission of the Salty Pastor ministry! Visit our donations page at https://pushpay.com/g/thesaltypastor to help us continue sharing truth with a world in need. Visit thesaltypastor.com to sign up for our weekly email, designed to coach, inspire, and encourage you to a mature faith.\nDiscussion Questions\n1. Carli Lloyd's coach told her she made excuses and blamed other people instead of focusing on what she could change. Is there an area of...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/KtmwLrrvo3_7vR2ufzDuSaLppKY_ofGpd-FivpXn_Kg/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS81MjYz/ZmExY2M3ZDRkNGFi/NThlNDBjNzBlNGI5/MDJjYy5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}