{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Alcohol Minimalist: Mindful Drinking & Behavior Change","title":"Trying to Moderate Alcohol and Hoping to Abstain","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1300,"description":"Have you grabbed your free e-book?  \"Alcohol Truths: How Much is Safe?\"  Go to www.mollywatts.com\nJoin my private FB group \"Change Your Alcohol Habit\" here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/changeyouralcoholhabit\nToday's episode is all about \"trying to cut back\" on alcohol or \"hoping to be good\" and why this isn't a strategy that will help you change your relationship with alcohol. \nWe have to commit to a plan ahead of time to help us change our habits and that requires a decision. \nThe two reasons people avoid making a plan ahead of time is because \n1) They are ashamed of the number of drinks that they are planning for. \n2) They fear failure and avoid making a plan because if they don't write down a firm number they can't fail. \nBelieving that a plan for alcohol ahead of time was something that would help me change my drinking required me thinking new thoughts.  Understanding that not meeting the plan did not mean that something had gone wrong, not using it as an excuse to quit trying was critical.\nWe have to decide on a plan, and we have to commit to evaluating our decisions to not follow the plan with compassion and curiosity.  We can't just try to moderate or hope to abstain, we need a plan in place and a commitment to figure out what happened if we drink more than we plan. \n \n ","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/zu3PtA3XzNKb2qSH95OKvfAaoixqds182Hao41kpkws/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8wZjY5/NjVmY2Y2MGQ0NmMx/NGNiMzdiZGY0OTMz/OWQzMy5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}