{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Dialog","title":"1.31 / Why do we hate being corrected?","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1928,"description":"In high school a friend asked me what I thought of his girlfriend. Honestly? I didn't like her. But I wasn't going to tell him, because he didn't want to hear it. He wanted to be validated in a decision he'd already made.\nMost of us never grow out of that. We say we want feedback. We want positive feedback.\nProverbs is blunt about it: a wise person loves correction, and it's stupid to hate correction. My co-host Nick Surface and I talk about why correction is so hard to hear, why insecurity and arrogance are the same problem, and how to take feedback without feeling like your whole identity is on trial.\nIf wisdom is everywhere, why aren't more people wise?\nBecause wisdom comes through correction. You become a wise person by being correctable, and most people are really bad at receiving correction.\nWhat's the difference between ignorance and stupidity?\nIgnorance is when you don't know the right thing to do. Stupidity is when someone points it out and you decide to stay ignorant anyway.\nAre insecurity and arrogance the same problem?\nYes. Pride is a spectrum with arrogance on one side and insecurity on the other, and both make life about you. Humility is making it not about you.\nHow do you take correction without feeling attacked?\nSeparate your behavior from your identity. Correction is about how your behavior affects someone, not who you are. And when you know God loves you perfectly, being told you're not good at something is just something to work on.\nScriptures\nProverbs 1:20 · Proverbs 12:1 · James 1:5 · Hebrews 12:5 · Jeremiah 17:9 · Philippians 2:5-7\nPeople and ideas\nSocrates: having his flaws pointed out served him\nKen Blanchard: feedback is the breakfast of champions\nErwin McManus: know what people need to hear\nChapters\n0:00 Cold open and show intro\n0:53 Writing a book in nine months\n5:53 Why Josh hates marketing\n6:55 What do people need to hear?\n7:36 Leadership rises and falls on communication\n9:20 People judge books by their covers\n10:49 Authentic almost...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/7YsfA4gq5VzjhvmKvDET1pQqT0OM6yxv1laklKclR7g/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS83ZWZh/MTRmZDEzOWRjZGQz/Y2M2NThkNzYwOTJj/ODA4MC5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}