{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Where's the Lemonade?","title":"#5.12 Event Etiquette in Co-Parenting","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1850,"description":"We just had a wedding!! Julianne and Boyd were married this past weekend and it made us think about the balancing act that they had to do between 3 different families. \nHow can we help them in their balancing act? \nThere are always going to be big events  that you have to attend with your coparent and possibly a significant other. How  can we make this easier on the kids?\nOver time this evolves too. It can also ebb and flow depending on your relationship with your ex.\nPolite and friendly should be the very least you should do. \nDear Mom and Dad,\nThe operative word here Mom and Dad is My events. You are a guest here and I ask you to act accordingly. My events include but are not limited to:\n1. My teacher’s conferences.\n2. My athletic events.\n3. My musical recitals.\n4. My birthday party.\n5. My school plays.\n6. My school graduations\nAnd later\n7. My Prom\n8. My going to college\n9. My wedding\nSo here are some guidelines which I ask if you can’t follow, best you postpone coming until you can.\nYour Divorce, My Event\nMy life outside my family’s divorce is very important to me. It is also what keeps me sane in this world called “figuring out two houses by myself.” Whenever I play soccer, I only want to focus on playing soccer. If divorced parents come to watch our games, I don’t want the two of you to stand out. I also prefer you don’t rush to bring your latest “squeeze” and I won’t be able to tell you my preference. When you both have new people in your life, Dad I don’t want you to call Mom’s BF a Pr$%^& and Mom I don’t want you to call Dad’s GF a Wh)(&^*. Yes, this has happened to other kids way too often.\nIf you use my events to vent your anger at each other, I suffer the most. I am embarrassed, ashamed, and I let my team down because I can’t focus on the game. Keep your divorce out of my events! Don’t use my events for your anger.\nBe concerned about me!\nWhenever you come to my teacher’s conference remember why you are there. Hopefully, you are there to see how I am...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/AbNhumt2hVbZcTgz2Qf8P7RE5CXq8b7ECuhOS8ZX7Wk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzExNzYvMTU1MDM3/NjEyNy1hcnR3b3Jr/LmpwZw.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}