{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Ten Thousand Things","title":"FOMO, JOMO and beyond","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3748,"description":"Moving from Fear, to Joy of Missing Out and beyond both. FOMO arises from projection and fantasy, as does a lot of the imagined enjoyment of the imagined pleasures.We might imagine that:everything we want is outside ourselvespleasure, meaning or peak experiences must be mediated by something: people, substances, or outside eventsthat we have to follow a formula to achieve themWe chew over the classic cliche FOMO of music festivals, and unearth some insights: the positives of turning towards your own prioritiespursuing projects and personal growth brings the greater contentment'projects over pleasures'the pursuit of meaningful experiences on your own terms or with people you care aboutsometimes the best music experience is going mental to a good tune where no-one can seeJoe contends that beyond FOMO and JOMO is the flow state:the real peak experiences of life often occur in the flow statewhich has little to do with glamorous activities or what we have been told to wantWe touch on existentialism and some key FOMO psychology:humans struggle to reliably imagine their own future feelingsto weigh the influence and impact of imagined eventswe struggle to accurately assess what others put on social media, obviouslybut this is also discomfort with our own choiceswe all carry the burden of choice, of what to value and pursuethe existential problem of assigning meaningit's not easy figuring out what we really wantit's difficult to imagine what will actually make us happy or bring contentment, and in a sense it's our life's workthe choice to engage in fulfilling projects is seemingly more difficult and uncertain than reaching for known pleasuresthe boring thing is doing what we think we will be fun and assigning it a greater future value than it can carrythe real boredom is not always in staying home and attending to our real prioritiesWe harangue Joe to turn towards something he gets a lot of meaning from, passages from spiritual books, and reflect on those in a new podcast...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/2JAtfDhLe02gUO4tZQPGVO8knrF2fc46Ed_F40DCEtk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzQzNzU5LzE2OTEw/MjExMTItYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}