{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"Stop Blaming Yourself—Fix This Instead","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":154,"description":"If you’re having relationship challenges,see if this hits close to home:You've been in therapy for months, maybe years,trying to fix relationships that keep falling into the same patterns.You understand your dynamics.You can articulate your childhood wounds and attachment styles.You know exactly why your relationship struggles keep repeating.But you're still stuck.Still triggered by the same things.Still repeating the same cycles.Still feeling like you're at the mercy of your circumstances.You keep showing up,hoping this will be the session that finally changes everything.But week after week,you leave feeling like you've just paid someone $200to listen to you complain about the same problems.This is the classic therapy vs change dilemma -lots of talking, minimal transformation.For folks who crush it in other areas of life,this creates a particular kind of torture.For people used to solving problems.setting goals, creating strategies, and executing,It works everywhere else.But in the realm of relationshipsthey notice feeling completely helpless.If you can relate, you know it’s likeyou're waiting for someone else to rescue youfrom your own life.Here's what nobody toldmy surgeon client why he was still stuck:In the realm of personal growth and healing…You haven’t identified what\"this is working\" actually means.Most people approach personal growthlike they're wandering around a foreign city without a destination.They're just... walking.Hoping they'll randomly stumble into a secure relationshipor emotional resilience where they never get triggered,and don’t feel the normal resistance of life.The tension between wanting autonomy,and desiring deep connection.It’s a complicated dance that is ever evolving.It’s heavily nuanced.Therapists ask, \"How are you feeling?\"You answer, \"Better, I guess?\"They nod knowingly, and you book another session.But what wtf are you actually working toward?What does success look like in your relationships?In your emotional life?In your daily...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}