{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"Stop Blaming Yourself—Fix This Instead","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":154,"description":"If you’re having relationship challenges,\nsee if this hits close to home:\nYou've been in therapy for months, maybe years,\ntrying to fix relationships that keep falling into the same patterns.\nYou understand your dynamics.\nYou can articulate your childhood wounds and attachment styles.\nYou know exactly why your relationship struggles keep repeating.\nBut you're still stuck.\nStill triggered by the same things.\nStill repeating the same cycles.\nStill feeling like you're at the mercy of your circumstances.\nYou keep showing up,\nhoping this will be the session that finally changes everything.\nBut week after week,\nyou leave feeling like you've just paid someone $200\nto listen to you complain about the same problems.\nThis is the classic therapy vs change dilemma -\nlots of talking, minimal transformation.\nFor folks who crush it in other areas of life,\nthis creates a particular kind of torture.\nFor people used to solving problems.\nsetting goals, creating strategies, and executing,\nIt works everywhere else.\nBut in the realm of relationships\nthey notice feeling completely helpless.\nIf you can relate, you know it’s like\nyou're waiting for someone else to rescue you\nfrom your own life.\nHere's what nobody told\nmy surgeon client why he was still stuck:\nIn the realm of personal growth and healing…\nYou haven’t identified what\n\"this is working\" actually means.\n\nMost people approach personal growth\nlike they're wandering around a foreign city without a destination.\nThey're just... walking.\nHoping they'll randomly stumble into a secure relationship\nor emotional resilience where they never get triggered,\nand don’t feel the normal resistance of life.\nThe tension between wanting autonomy,\nand desiring deep connection.\nIt’s a complicated dance that is ever evolving.\nIt’s heavily nuanced.\nTherapists ask, \"How are you feeling?\"\nYou answer, \"Better, I guess?\"\nThey nod knowingly, and you book another session.\nBut what wtf are you actually working toward?\nWhat does success look like in your...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}