{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Rebuilt After 40 with Rebecca Sodek","title":"When the Choice Wasn’t Yours: Grief, Control & Letting Go","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1419,"description":"When the Choice Wasn’t Yours: Grief, Control & Letting Go\nWhat happens when life changes in a way you never chose, and there’s nothing you can do to stop it?\nNine years after losing my mom to cancer, I still miss the ordinary moments. Asking her a question. Hearing her opinion. Sharing the little things that didn’t seem important until she wasn’t here anymore.\nBut there’s something about losing her that I’ve had to look at differently.\nWhen I knew my mom was going to die, I started pulling away. I loved her deeply, but I was afraid of how much losing her would hurt. Creating distance was my way of trying to protect myself from something I couldn’t control.\nLooking back, I wish I’d handled that time differently.\nIn Episode 3 of Rebuilt After 40, I’m sharing what losing my mom taught me about anticipatory grief, emotional withdrawal, control, regret, and learning to stay present when life doesn’t turn out the way we hoped.\nAnd this conversation isn’t only about losing someone you love.\nMaybe a relationship ended before you were ready. Maybe your health changed, a job disappeared, or a future you imagined is no longer possible.\nWhen something happens that you didn’t choose, how do you respond? And what choices are still yours?\nIn this episode, we talk about:\nWhy we sometimes pull away from people we love when we’re afraid of losing them\nAnticipatory grief and what it can feel like to begin grieving before someone dies\nHow trying to control pain can affect our relationships and our ability to be present\nThe difference between healthy boundaries and withdrawing out of fear\nLiving with regret without allowing it to determine how you live today\nHow to recognize what’s within your control when life changes unexpectedly\nWhy grief and the desire for a good life can exist together\nHow to identify one meaningful step you can take, even when you can’t change what happened\nThree questions to ask yourself\nIf you’re facing something you didn’t choose, I want you to consider...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/-dAUh-mjhi2-bkGf2ERIQlq25VN9Ni5ycYHjZqfcF5c/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hOGU4/MGJiZDEzZGJlYjcx/YmM2YTVlOGNjMjZm/MzIxZC5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}