{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Notes to Her","title":"Note 81: Stop Deflecting The Compliment","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":828,"description":"How to accept a compliment without deflecting it: I break down why you hand them back and the two-second fix in Note 81 of Notes to Her.\nThis one is for the woman who answers “I love your top” with where she bought it and how little it cost.\n\nI walk through the lines we use to deflect, from “Oh, this old thing” to the compliment we fire right back, and why they leave our mouths before the kind words have a chance to land. A lot of it comes down to the opinion we hold of ourselves, and I share my own three-dollar habit from before I built my confidence.\n\nI also cover the work version, where one compliment turns into pressure to never slip, the four costs of deflecting, and the quick check for when complimenting someone back is the real thing. You will leave with homework that takes two seconds.\n\nℹ️ In this video you’ll discover:\n→ Why you answer a compliment with the price tag before it lands\n→ Where the habit comes from and why taking credit can feel like bragging\n→ The “why would they lie to you?” question that changes how a compliment sounds\n→ How one compliment at work can turn into pressure to never slip\n→ The four costs of handing compliments back\n→ How to tell whether complimenting someone back is real or a deflection\n→ The two-second shift: pause, say thank you, and stop talking\n\nReady to build the confidence underneath the reflex? Here’s the link to download the free Confidence Starter Kit: https://theconfidentlyher.com/confidence-kit\n\nMake sure you’re subscribed so you don’t miss Note 82, You’ve Always Been Built for More, and follow @confidentlyherco for more reminders between episodes.","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/YSmE1jM0mc5E6hI6jBHRbXBHfMjyueQjBn7vCt4gttA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8wYTNl/MzFjYzRjZGYyMDE0/NjkxNDgxZjJlOWFi/ZDhjYy5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}