{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Notes For Men","title":"How To Be A Deliberate Dad, Showing Up For Yourself And Your Family | With Steve Cardwell","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3583,"description":"“If I’m sitting here in ten years thinking this exact same thing, I’ve no one to blame but myself.” -  Steve Cardwell\nIn this episode of Feel Good — For Men Who Want Change, host Tim Barber sits down with Steve Cardwell, founder of Deliberate Dad, to unpack the moment that forced him off autopilot and into a life of deliberate choice.\nFrom a “Scotch egg” moment to the systems that help fathers reclaim time and presence, Steve shares a practical framework with his Deliberate Operating System, that helps dads set clear standards, simplify routines, and stay intentional through the chaos of parenting.\nThey discuss what it means to be “deliberately selfish,” why balance is a myth, and how small, repeatable actions can lead to lasting transformation. If you’re a dad juggling work, family, and your own standards, this episode gives you realistic next steps and permission to experiment without guilt.\n👉 Subscribe, share, and tag a dad who needs to stop living on autopilot.\nChapters\n\n00:00:00 - Intro & episode overview\n00:01:34 - Checking in: life with a 3-year-old and 10-month-old\n00:05:11 - The “Scotch Egg” moment: why Steve changed course\n00:07:27 - Taking responsibility: hiring a coach & starting experiments\n00:11:15 - Default (autopilot) vs Deliberate living — definitions and danger\n00:19:53 - “Deliberately selfish”: why self-care helps you show up\n00:23:33 - The Deliberate Operating System: clarity, systems, mindset\n00:23:54 - Seasons of life: why balance isn’t the answer\n00:29:52 - Micro-actions & momentum — simple experiments that compound\n00:30:33 - Real talk: everyone’s on autopilot — it’s normal, but fixable\n00:37:26 - Work & careers: practical conversations with employers\n00:39:49 - Defining standards: a practical example (phone-off at pick-up)\n00:44:02 - Action → Evidence → Bigger goals: the six-week approach\n00:54:52 - Imperfect solutions are better than no solution (closing message)\n00:57:26 - Where to find Steve (Deliberate Dad: website / socials /...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/r-InY2RDPJtsFsUEsy0G5tI8gOJc__LD69KmkReEj6k/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9mZDBh/OTNkNjU5YWQ1NDIy/OTU3NWE3NTFkMTJi/Y2YxNi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}