{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"A LOT with Audra","title":"75. Your Next Chapter Doesn’t Require a New Life with Monica Packer, Habits & Identity Coach","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2180,"description":"What if your second act isn't about changing your life — it's about finally showing up in the one you already have?\n\nMonica Packer, founder of the About Progress podcast and a certified habits and identity coach, joins me to talk about the version of personal growth nobody talks about: the quiet, internal kind. Monica spent years as a self-described aspiring perfectionist — achieving on the outside while disappearing from herself on the inside. What she discovered in her 30s (after two early midlife crises and a decade of recovery) is that sustainable growth doesn't come from hustle or apathy — it comes from progress. And it starts by asking: do I even know who I am?\n\nWe talk about why perfectionism isn't just about striving — it's just as alive in the people who've stopped trying. We explore Monica's \"Do Something List,\" the three Cs of change (curiosity, compassion, and courage), why habits built for men don't work for women, and what it means to stop waiting for arrival and start trusting the process.\n\nHighlights\n\nMonica's \"costume life\" realization at 30 — loving the life she'd built but not recognizing herself in it\nWhy perfectionism lives on both sides of the spectrum: the overachiever AND the person who's given up trying\nThe connection between ADHD, all-or-nothing thinking, and the perfectionism spectrum\nWhat the \"Do Something List\" is — and why never completing it is the whole point\nWhy there is no arrival, and the mantra that will help you stop waiting for one\nThe Three Cs of Change: curiosity, compassion, and courage\nWhy popular habit methods fail women — invisible labor, less time, less energy, less predictability\nThe inner comparison monster: comparing your current self to a past version of yourself\nIdentity isn't static — and that's actually freeing\n\nChapters\n\n1:03 — Introduction & episode premise\n1:28 — Meet Monica Packer\n2:55 — The \"costume life\" realization: living life on the sidelines\n8:35 — Perfectionism as a spectrum — it's not just...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/ST1ihY6oM6j-9JRbJBusW58P2vlzKyibzbr46bLarLI/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9kMTAw/OWFmMDZmNzE3YzYy/OTM3ZmM5Y2NmYzRm/MTY5My5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}