{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"A LOT with Audra","title":"75. Your Next Chapter Doesn’t Require a New Life with Monica Packer, Habits & Identity Coach","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2180,"description":"What if your second act isn't about changing your life — it's about finally showing up in the one you already have?Monica Packer, founder of the About Progress podcast and a certified habits and identity coach, joins me to talk about the version of personal growth nobody talks about: the quiet, internal kind. Monica spent years as a self-described aspiring perfectionist — achieving on the outside while disappearing from herself on the inside. What she discovered in her 30s (after two early midlife crises and a decade of recovery) is that sustainable growth doesn't come from hustle or apathy — it comes from progress. And it starts by asking: do I even know who I am?We talk about why perfectionism isn't just about striving — it's just as alive in the people who've stopped trying. We explore Monica's \"Do Something List,\" the three Cs of change (curiosity, compassion, and courage), why habits built for men don't work for women, and what it means to stop waiting for arrival and start trusting the process.HighlightsMonica's \"costume life\" realization at 30 — loving the life she'd built but not recognizing herself in itWhy perfectionism lives on both sides of the spectrum: the overachiever AND the person who's given up tryingThe connection between ADHD, all-or-nothing thinking, and the perfectionism spectrumWhat the \"Do Something List\" is — and why never completing it is the whole pointWhy there is no arrival, and the mantra that will help you stop waiting for oneThe Three Cs of Change: curiosity, compassion, and courageWhy popular habit methods fail women — invisible labor, less time, less energy, less predictabilityThe inner comparison monster: comparing your current self to a past version of yourselfIdentity isn't static — and that's actually freeingChapters1:03 — Introduction & episode premise1:28 — Meet Monica Packer2:55 — The \"costume life\" realization: living life on the sidelines8:35 — Perfectionism as a spectrum — it's not just overachieving12:40 — Starting the...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/ST1ihY6oM6j-9JRbJBusW58P2vlzKyibzbr46bLarLI/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9kMTAw/OWFmMDZmNzE3YzYy/OTM3ZmM5Y2NmYzRm/MTY5My5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}