{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Divorce Dialogues","title":"Choosing Dignity Over Winning: Katherine Miller on The Emotionally Savvy Divorce","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1359,"description":"Divorce doesn't have to be measured by who wins. What if success meant something entirely different?\nIn this episode, Katherine Miller, divorce attorney, mediator, and author, opens her Emotionally Savvy Divorce series by redefining what a successful divorce actually looks like — not in the courtroom, but in the life you build afterward.\nMost people never stop to define what winning a divorce would even mean. Katherine explains why so many clients default to protecting the house, the custody schedule, or their pride, and how those goals are really just reactions, not a definition of success. She walks through why the winner-loser framing of divorce is largely false, why chasing it can cost far more than it's worth, and how holding onto resentment rarely brings the relief people expect.\nTune in for a conversation about shifting the focus from what you're fighting against to what you're actually building, and why the decisions you make today are votes for the life you want after divorce is over.\nIn this episode, you'll learn:Why most people confuse strategy and reaction with a real definition of success;Why the winner-loser framing of divorce rarely reflects reality;How to identify what you're actually protecting — and whether your actions align with it; andThree questions to ask yourself before every major divorce decision\nHighlights:\n(00:00) Introducing the Emotionally Savvy Divorce series(03:38) Part one: The problem(03:40) Why most people never define what success means\n(04:59) The false assumption of winners and losers(06:06) Part two: The trap\n(06:08) How chasing \"winning\" becomes the wrong goal(07:09) Untangling your identity from your marriage(09:28) Part three: The new definition of success(09:31) Divorce as a legal, emotional, and family transition(13:13) Finding your priorities before the deal-making begins(16:28) Part four: A real life example\n(16:31) Marcy's story: rebuilding life after betrayal\n(19:19) What a successful divorce looks like\n(19:40) The...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/2nw2w9z7N1c6KkSwiQpiK0ES3HLZcKXStZtcdXwiYB0/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8zOTJj/MmUxMzUwODUwNDM5/NjI2ZTdlMTM5OTFl/NGUwNy5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}