{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Welcome To Being Alive","title":"Ep 1: Division of Household Labor in Relationships","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2213,"description":"If you've ever felt like you're the only one really holding your shared life together, managing, anticipating, delegating, and still being the one who notices when you're out of milk, this episode is for you.Division of household labor is one of the most common things couples bring into the therapy room, and one of the most emotionally complicated to unpack. In this first episode, couples and sex therapist Inez Cordoba, LICSW, CST responds to an anonymous question from a wife of ten years who has tried everything (chore charts, team meetings, direct conversations, even yelling) and still can't seem to make things more equitable at home.Inez walks through the full picture: what's really going on beneath the surface of these arguments, why chore lists alone will never be enough, and what a more honest, vulnerable conversation between partners could actually look like.📖 Resource mentioned in this episode: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky (NYT Bestseller), and the companion Fair Play Deck, a couples conversation card deck for prioritizing shared responsibilities. A great place to start if you want a neutral third party to guide the conversation.🕐 Episode Chapters:0:00 — Podcast Intro1:10 — Today's Theme: Division of Labor4:07 — Recommended Resource: Fair Play5:52 — Getting Into the Conversation6:24 — The Question Revealed8:27 — Individual vs. Relational: Which is it?10:08 — Individual Factors to Consider (depression, ADHD, chronic illness)11:59 — Gender Roles & Upbringing14:00 — Habits & Circumstance: How the status quo gets set15:18 — Relational Dynamics: How couples enable imbalance together16:39 — The Manager Dynamic18:30 — The Mutuality Myth: Why equality is actually more work20:25 — The Outlier Couple23:15 — Circling Back to the Question24:56 — Emotional Impact Matters26:42 — The Vulnerable Conversation28:53 — Beyond Chore Lists: What a sustainable solution looks like30:13 — Small Changes Over Time & the Long Game33:30 — Breaking It Down into Sizable Chunks34:35 —...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/-E8-wlSA90qhQfoCcD865LVMcIKyhOgr-xazT3vk_-A/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS83ZmM2/NzJjYzQ4YzI2YmUx/ZTc1OTZjY2Q5OTgx/ZTAzZS5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}