{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"NOTES from a stranger about life, love and death","title":"Let's dispel the myth that men are simple with basic needs; most are extremely complicated and are just avoidant types. ","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1137,"description":"Men are not simple human beings with basic needs, \nbut are (like all human beings) complicated in that they carry with them a multitude of traumas and wounds that have never been processed, which can make them physically, emotionally, and mentally dissociated, preferring to escape from difficult conversations, exposing their emotions, and deep connection with their partner. \n\nEscape takes place through multiple behaviors (scrolling, TV, smoking, alcohol, sex, socializing, work, hobbies, sports...activities that are not “wrong” in themselves but become complicated if chosen to avoid connection with one's partner).\n\nWe see and hear this in many romantic relationships in our society (see the phenomenon of ghosting), but we continue with the narrative that women are a pain in the ass when in reality they are only looking for a deep and truthful connection (generally speaking, there are women who are just as avoidant). \n\nThe first step is to stop defining ourselves as simple and basic in our needs and start looking at the complexity behind these behaviors.\n\nIn this episode, we study the AVOIDANT type of man in romantic relationships.\n\nHappy Christmas Eve!","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/gGbD59R4msbHhPvTG-ScCfApPUg-eLqo2-uLnPORibI/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzQ0MjM4LzE3MDgz/MzkzMjQtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}