{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Lead the People","title":"#194 Why \"I'll Be Happy When\" Holds Leaders Back (feat. Jay Abbasi)","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2007,"description":"Jay Abbasi was 40 pounds overweight, his marriage was falling apart, and he was working himself into the ground for a promotion in finance. It took the sudden death of his father to make him ask the question that now drives his work: do I have to sacrifice joy and happiness for achievement? Years later, Jay has an answer, and it comes with a formula.\n\nMatt Poepsel sits down with Jay Abbasi, CEO and Founder of The Conscious Professional, to take apart the idea that leaders have to pick between results and wellbeing. Jay spent years leading Tesla's national training program before building a coaching practice that now includes leaders at Google, Amazon, and Wells Fargo. He and Matt dig into the \"I'll be happy when\" trap, then Jay walks through a hole in the jungle that shows what empathy looks like when it gets someone out. A Lego exercise at Tesla proves how often leaders hold onto the card instead of handing it over. From there, Jay lays out his resilience formula in a specific order: energy plus space plus choice. They land on \"mind freeness,\" 15-minute meetings, and why every ambitious leader needs to get more bored.\nWhat you'll learn:\nJoy as fuel: Flip \"I'll be happy when\" into \"I am happy now,\" and treat joy as what powers every step up the mountain.\nHonesty is kindness: Sitting in the hole with a struggling employee keeps you both stuck. Tie the rope to the tree trunk, reach down, and have the hard performance conversation.\nThe resilience formula: Protect your energy first, build in space second, then choose how you respond. Jay argues the order matters, and so does a calendar full of 15-minute meetings.\nDelegation protects energy: Holding onto everything feeds control and ego. Handing over the card frees you to do the work only you can do.\nHighlights:\n(00:00) Meet Jay Abbasi\n(02:33) What makes high performers unhappy in the first place?\n(04:11) \"I'll be happy when\" versus happy now\n(05:39) The other extreme: happy but not performing\n(09:16) Honesty is...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/gBXaSS69Fbpxgl9x7Oa1OVHc62HSffiZspToCexfb7k/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8xYmM0/OGUyYTE3ZTcwZDlm/ZWM4YmM3YzI0MWUx/MGZkOC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}