{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Thriving Kids","title":"Should You Let Your Kid Fail? A Parent Q&A on Pressure, Resilience, and Emotions","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1660,"description":"In this Q&A edition of Thriving Kids, Dr. Dave Anderson answers listener questions following last week’s conversation with Jennifer Wallace on toxic achievement culture and helping kids feel like they matter.Parents asked practical, hard questions about failure, pressure, motivation, and emotional regulation. This episode focuses on striking a balance — between support and independence, structure and flexibility, and validation and limits.Questions cover:Natural consequences vs. stepping in – Did you rob your child of a lesson by rescuing a forgotten school project? How to decide based on context and stakes.Kids who cheat because they hate losing – What’s developmentally normal at younger ages, when rule-following matters for peer relationships, and how to address cheating without turning games into power struggles.Paying kids for good grades – Does it increase pressure? How to use rewards thoughtfully and fade them out over time.When your child says, “I suck at this” – How to respond to negative self-talk and  helping kids move from self-blame to problem-solving.The brutal car ride home after a loss – Why “I loved watching you play” can backfire and how to ask your teen what support they actually need.When schools make failure feel high-stakes – What to say when mistakes lead to remedial groups or lost electives and how parents can act as “counter-programming” to achievement culture.Key takeaways:There is rarely one “right” parenting move.Kids need both scaffolding and space to struggle.Pressure affects children differently.Validation doesn’t mean fixing feelings.Effort matters more than perfection.This episode is especially helpful if you’re parenting a child who is sensitive to failure, a perfectionist, or feeling overwhelmed by expectations at school or in sports.","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/MDrkVBxL9DiP-AOjpXeqSeDkDXWr4TZ1Gmxkp6wFi2w/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8zYTEy/ZWQ4NDgzMTE5YmUw/ZjEzYTJiMjIwNWM5/MDgyMy5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}