{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Something Shiny: ADHD!","title":"SUMMER REPLAY: You're a Champion Shame Spiraler. Here's How to Retire.","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1767,"description":"If you have ADHD, there's a decent chance the way you motivate yourself is by beating yourself up. The internal spiral that goes: if I mess this up, no one's gonna like me, then I lose the job, then everything falls apart. It works, kind of. Things get done. So you keep doing it, and it costs you every single time.\nHere's what this episode gets into: that spiral is fuel. Shame turns into fear, fear speeds up your heart, and that jolt is the stimulation your ADHD brain knows best. Which is exactly why you keep going back to it. And it's also why you don't have to.\nDavid tells the story of a talk he gives every year, and the spiral that used to come with it: mess this up, lose the job, end up homeless. What he does now instead changes everything. He plans the freak-out. He times it. And when the nerves show up early, he has a line for them. Isabelle has a realization on air about her own spiraling that might be yours too. And Bobby, Isabelle's husband, is in this one, live in the middle of an understudy gig he has to memorize on his own, showing the whole thing actually works.\nThis episode is part of the Something Shiny Summer Replay series, where David and Isabelle are pulling some of their most powerful episodes back into the feed. If you've heard this one, it's worth hearing again. If you haven't, it might be exactly the one you need. Either way, your brain gets something to hold onto this summer.\nIn this episode:Why beating yourself up feels like motivation, and what it's actually costing youThe jungle gym story from David's childhood that explains response cost, and why Isabelle's whole body reacted to itWhat shame does to your heart rate, and why your brain keeps choosing the spiralDavid's plan-the-freak-out system, including the line he says when the panic shows up earlyHow Bobby memorized a lead role scene by scene with no rehearsals and no self-beatingThe three questions Isabelle lands on at the end, and why David says they took him 30 years-------\nWait,...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/Z5oo5dUJtRg1dVvtKIZLx7oln9E4pT6ZxDge5G2XRxA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzIyNDkyLzE2MjUz/NDA2NjgtYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}