{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Do You Feel That? | A Couples Intimacy & Sex Podcast","title":"Why Most People Are Bad in Bed And Don't Know It","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3051,"description":"Most people rate themselves as above average in bed. Statistically, that's impossible. And the gap between how people assess their own performance and what their partner is actually experiencing is where most sexual dissatisfaction quietly lives.\nIn Episode 37, Scott and Brittney go somewhere most podcasts won't: the specific, research-backed patterns that make people consistently disappointing intimate partners without them having any idea. Not character flaws. Not fixed traits. Learnable, fixable patterns that nobody ever named because nobody ever taught most people what good intimacy actually requires.\nFive patterns. Real research. Personal honesty from both Scott and Brittney about where they've each caught themselves. And a practical fix for each one that doesn't require a personality overhaul — just a willingness to look.\n\nIn this episode:\nWhy most people overestimate their performance as intimate partners and what the research says about the actual satisfaction gap\nPattern 1: Assuming instead of asking and why confidence and assumption are not the same thing\nPattern 2: Treating sex as a performance rather than a collaboration\nPattern 3: Prioritizing your own arousal timeline at the expense of your partner's\nPattern 4: Disappearing after sex and why the ten minutes after matter as much as the encounter itself\nPattern 5: Never updating your partner's manual \nA practical fix for each pattern you can use this week\nRemember — intimacy is not automatic... it's guided.\n\nCouples Intimacy Resources\n\nLooking to improve your sex life, strengthen your marriage, or deepen intimacy in your relationship?\nDownload Coelle, our guided audio intimacy app for couples, designed to strengthen communication, build confidence, and support emotional and physical connection.\nFor personalized support, Scott offers Sex & Intimacy Coaching focused on marriage, desire differences, and building stronger sexual confidence.\nExplore both here:\nDownload the App:...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/Nobw__SsL1MHaP84O1DHUYOUl24hhbPPKmJ36fCapGw/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS84MGQ4/ZmYxZjRjMDkxMDhk/NTliNzU5OTZhOGMz/ZDhmZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}