{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Feminism NOW","title":"He Can Run a Meeting but Not a Dishwasher","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1912,"description":"When someone keeps saying “I can’t,” the work doesn’t go away. Someone else picks it up. This week, Kim and Rose sit down with therapist Annie Wright to talk about weaponized incompetence, which is what happens when one person does a task badly, or claims they can’t do it at all, until the more capable person takes over. Annie shows that the viral term is actually about emotional labor and what she calls “patriarchy made personal.”\nWright talks about why ambitious, feminist women still end up carrying the load and how the same pattern follows them into the office. She also has advice for anyone who’s ready to stop rescuing. Finally, Kim and Rose open the episode with what has made them mad as hell this week: Attacks on women in public life and the fight over reproductive choice.\n\nIn this episode:\nAttacks on women in public life and the fight over reproductive autonomy\nWhat weaponized incompetence is, and how it differs from real inability\nEmotional labor as the mental map that keeps a household running\nHow childhood parentification teaches women that being useful means being loved\nWhat the person playing incompetent gets out of it\nWhere gaslighting and weaponized incompetence overlap\nHow the pattern shows up at work, in meeting notes, calendars and nonpromotable tasks\nHow to break the pattern: name it, hand over real ownership, stop rescuing, and watch the response\nGot something to say? Call 202-628-8669 or send a voice memo to feminismnow@now.org.\nGuest: Annie Wright, LMFT, is a psychotherapist and author whose work focuses on the emotional and relational patterns that leave driven women carrying too much. She is licensed in fifteen U.S. jurisdictions and writes the Psychology Today column Making the Whole Beautiful and the Substack Strong & Stable. Her first book, The Everything Years, comes out from W.W. Norton in 2027.\nToday’s featured chapter: West Virginia\n\n#weaponizedincompetence #emotionallabor #feminism\nFollow us on social media:\n Find Kim on Instagram...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/H_2qU5GUJlC57gN9asF34wc-gQdB-2miz04AKirtJ8w/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS85ZDQ4/MDc5ZDNmNzkwNzNh/ODM1NTA0ZWVjYWIw/MTQxMy5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}