{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Sex Tells","title":"Affairs & Trust: Why Infidelity Happens & What Comes After | With Juliet Rosenfeld & Kate Moyle","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2392,"description":"Welcome back to Sex Tells, in this episode host Lucy Frank is joined by renowned psychoanalyst Juliet Rosenfeld (author of the book “Affairs”) and experienced therapist Psychosexual and Relationship Kate Moyle to explore why affairs happen, looking beyond simplistic narratives of betrayal to examine the emotional, psychological, and societal factors that can drive people outside their primary relationships.Why do affairs occur, even in relationships that appear loving or stable? Lucy, Juliet, and Kate explore how unmet emotional needs, desire for novelty, changes in identity, and struggles with self-esteem can all play a role. They also examine how cultural expectations around monogamy, romance, and success in relationships can create pressure, silence, and shame, making it harder for individuals to openly address dissatisfaction before it manifests as infidelity.What impact do affairs have on trust, intimacy, and communication within a relationship? The episode delves into the rupture that betrayal can cause, often forcing couples to confront painful truths about themselves and each other. Juliet and Kate discuss how the aftermath of an affair can bring intense emotions while also opening up difficult but necessary conversations about boundaries, needs, and expectations.How do changing social norms influence the way we think about fidelity and commitment? The episode explores the evolving landscape of modern relationships, including shifting attitudes toward monogamy, open relationships, and ethical non-monogamy. Lucy, Juliet, and Kate make a clear distinction between secretive affairs and consensual non-monogamy, emphasising that honesty, transparency, and mutual agreement are central to relational health, regardless of relationship structure.Is healing possible after an affair, and what does rebuilding look like? Drawing on therapeutic insight and real-life examples, Juliet and Kate discuss the slow and often non-linear process of repair. They highlight the...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/bm_uvjaattdI-uACmdRfimfw6wtzPJ9M7dN01y9Moeg/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9mZjA0/ODg2YWU0Njg2ZGRh/M2MyMDhjNDhkMzFj/OTljZS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}