{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Yes, And Otherwise: Feminist Conversations on Work, Rest & Power","title":"Ugly Healing: Tamela J. Gordon on Hood Wellness, Starting Over, and Success Without the Polish","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/41c7f4ee\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2859,"description":"FIND OUR PAST CONVERSATIONS AT https://yesandotherwise.com/\nAuthor Tamela J. Gordon (Hood Wellness) joins Becky and Faith to talk about “ugly healing,” the kind that is not linear, not soft-focus, and not a bubble bath. We start with what everyone is reading, then get into starting over in your forties, unlearning the polished wellness ideal, and why shame loves silence. We also talk about the strange loneliness that shows up after your dream comes true.\nTimestamps\n00:29 Icebreaker: what we’re reading right now\n06:22 The story that keeps following us: starting over\n13:20 Scarcity, hope, and the freedom of “I just got fired”\n17:42 Ugly healing vs. the soft-aura version of wellness\n22:08 The unhooking: restaurant work, Anthony Bourdain, and internalized misogyny\n27:53 Aging, the male gaze, and a beauty standard no one can meet\n33:30 The loneliness of deconstructing an old story\n35:11 Community care, visibility, and why shame loves silence\n42:46 What ugly healing looks like for Tamela right now\n45:45 What are you saying yes to today?\n46:43 Where to find Tamela and her work\nResources mentioned\n• Tamela’s Substack, Broke Woman Writer for Hire: https://substack.com/@shewritestolive\n• Tamela on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shewritestolive/\n• Tamela on Threads: https://www.threads.com/@shewritestolive\n• \"Hood Wellness\" by Tamela J. Gordon: https://link.amazon/B08MoE0dN\n• \"American Scoundrel\" by Kai Bird: https://link.amazon/B01V7492b\n• \"Fear and Fury\" by Heather Ann Thompson: https://link.amazon/B0bWQf0qs\n• \"The Power Broker\" by Robert Caro: https://link.amazon/B02HRwYGi\n• \"The Book of Unknown Americans\" by Cristina Henríquez: https://link.amazon/B0b2YByGK\n• \"Watch Us Rise\" by Renée Watson and Ellen Hagan: https://link.amazon/B0fAbaZ9n\n• \"The Island of Sea Women\" by Lisa See: https://link.amazon/B0geGZJuN\n• \"Carrying\" by Samantha Josephs: https://link.amazon/B0gUWlE2U\n• \"If You Can’t Take the Heat\" by Geraldine DeRuiter: https://link.amazon/B04IrYYFR\n• \"Kitchen...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/GBHLYfR1d8vTP6gl28L07YDfK_AQkV3CJwsWm3AU-rM/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hNDE0/MTQ4YzMwYzNlM2Ix/YjIwMzY3NTZlMWIz/OWQ3ZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}