{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Know Your Children with Rav Shlomo Katz","title":"3. Natural vs. Conditional Loving","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3153,"description":"In this week’s shiur, Rav Shlomo Katz explores the foundation of Natural vs. Conditional Loving. Every parent begins with an unconditional, unexplainable love—ahavah tiv’it—simply because our child exists. As children grow and reveal talents, quirks, and challenges, a second layer—ahavah mutenet—forms, often shaping how we respond and how they feel loved. The work is to bridge these two, so the deepest, unconditional love never gets buried.\nTogether we learn:\nThe long–short path of chinuch: why taking time to explain clearly now creates quicker, gentler reception later.\nHow unconditional love at birth (you are, therefore I love you) often gets clouded by comparison, correction, and “fixing.”\nThe shift from ahavah tiv’it (rooted in existence) to ahavah mutenet (shaped by personality and traits).\nWhy “favorites” and subtle distance creep in, and how to return to the root love beneath them.\nA Rosh Hashanah lens: just as the day celebrates the creation of Adam, so too it calls us back to love that flows from existence itself.\nPractical takeaways:\nGive one no-reason act of kindness to your child this week—just because they are.\nCatch yourself when love feels conditional; pause and recall the root, unconditional bond.\nThink one positive thought about each child daily; they feel the shift, even before you act.\n----------\nFor more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com\nJoin Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_t","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/1kIczSvIsSLQhU43EiAuIwIwZqNhtmqJjeK1o3ZXq5s/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8yYTUw/ODM2ZTE4ZTk5ZWI0/OTFhZTUwYmNkNzli/Y2RlZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}