{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"What is Projection and how it shows up in relationships ","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":144,"description":" If there was one thing I wished more people struggling with conflict in relationships understood,it’s this:IT’S NEVER ABOUT WHAT IT’S ABOUT.The disagreement? It’s only the tip of the iceberg.What’s really happening is something much deeper—a projection, like a movie playing on a screen.But the drama isn’t on the screen. It’s inside the projector—YOU.You know the cycle, don’t you.The same arguments on repeat, like a bad playlist you can’t escape.The rising tension that makes you feel unseen, unheard, and powerless.The emotional meltdowns that leave you drained, questioning if love is supposed to feel this heavy.You’ve tried everything—calm conversations, walking away, maybe even couples therapy. But nothing sticks. The same wounds keep showing up, dressed in different clothes.It’s exhausting.You’ve wondered:“Why do they keep doing this?”“Why can’t I just find someone who gets me?”“Is it me? Am I the problem?”And here’s the truth you don’t want to hear but need to:Yes, it’s you (like the Taylor Swift song).But not in the way you think.This is the essence of “Projections\" in relationships.Every time you’re triggered, two hidden dynamics are at play:Projection 1: “Just Like When”That trait in your partner—their tone, their distance, their bossiness—that sets you off-- It’s a carbon copy of someone from your past(you know who I’m talking about). Maybe it’s your partner’s dismissiveness that echoes your mother’s silent treatment. Or their criticism that feels eerily like your father’s impossible standards.You’re not fighting your partner. You’re fighting a ghost.Projection 2: “Just Like Me”This confronts many people at the Overview Experience Training: The thing you can’t stand in them— It’s a mirror to a part of yourself you’ve disowned or stuffed away, or rejected.Example: Their neediness makes you furious because you’ve buried your own parts that are anxious and needy.Their jealousy drives you mad because it reflects your own insecurities.This is why conflict feels...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}