{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"What is Projection and how it shows up in relationships ","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":144,"description":" If there was one thing I wished more people \nstruggling with conflict in relationships understood,\n\nit’s this:\n\nIT’S NEVER ABOUT WHAT IT’S ABOUT.\nThe disagreement? \nIt’s only the tip of the iceberg.\n\nWhat’s really happening is something much deeper—\na projection, like a movie playing on a screen.\nBut the drama isn’t on the screen. \nIt’s inside the projector—YOU.\nYou know the cycle, don’t you.\nThe same arguments on repeat, like a bad playlist you can’t escape.\nThe rising tension that makes you feel unseen, unheard, and powerless.\nThe emotional meltdowns that leave you drained, \nquestioning if love is supposed to feel this heavy.\n\nYou’ve tried everything—calm conversations, \nwalking away, maybe even couples therapy. \nBut nothing sticks. \n\nThe same wounds keep showing up, \ndressed in different clothes.\nIt’s exhausting.\nYou’ve wondered:\n“Why do they keep doing this?”\n“Why can’t I just find someone who gets me?”\n“Is it me? Am I the problem?”\n\nAnd here’s the truth you don’t want to hear but need to:\nYes, it’s you (like the Taylor Swift song).\n\nBut not in the way you think.\n\nThis is the essence of “Projections\" in relationships.\nEvery time you’re triggered, two hidden dynamics are at play:\nProjection 1: “Just Like When”\nThat trait in your partner—their tone, their distance, their bossiness—\nthat sets you off-- It’s a carbon copy of someone from your past\n(you know who I’m talking about). \nMaybe it’s your partner’s dismissiveness that echoes your mother’s silent treatment. \nOr their criticism that feels eerily like your father’s impossible standards.\nYou’re not fighting your partner. \nYou’re fighting a ghost.\nProjection 2: “Just Like Me”\nThis confronts many people at the Overview Experience Training: \nThe thing you can’t stand in them— It’s a mirror to a part of yourself \nyou’ve disowned or stuffed away, or rejected.\n\nExample: \nTheir neediness makes you furious \nbecause you’ve buried your own parts that are anxious and needy.\nTheir jealousy drives you mad because it...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}