{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Yes, And Otherwise: Feminist Conversations on Work, Rest & Power","title":"Not Everyone Deserves Your Authenticity with Megan Fuciarelli","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3510,"description":"Beckty Mollenkamp and Faith Clarke sit down with Megan Fuciarelli, speaker and \"authenticity amplifier,\" to talk about the flip side of a conversation we hear constantly: not how to be authentic, but how to actually receive someone else's authenticity when they show up as their full selves.\nMegan shares her own story of being othered as a child, discovering at 15 that she was adopted, and how decades of people-pleasing and masking shaped the DEI and belonging work she does today. The conversation digs into the real difference between masking and cloaking a part of yourself, why \"not everyone deserves your authenticity,\" the gap between intent and impact, why professionalism norms are rooted in racism and sexism, and how leaders and everyday people can hold space for identities and experiences different from their own without guilt, shame, or blame.\nTimestamps:\n00:15 — Welcome and introducing Megan Fuciarelli\n05:55 — What repeated story has Megan been living lately?\n08:16 — Bullied, never enough, and \"closeted acceptance\" as a kid\n09:00 — Finding out at 15 that she was adopted\n12:31 — Becky's own earliest memory of not feeling welcome\n15:00 — How early wounding creates people-pleasing\n16:59 — Imposter syndrome vs. \"am I being who I actually am?\"\n17:13 — Not everyone deserves your authenticity (masking vs. cloaking)\n20:42 — Why you can't fully receive someone else's authenticity until you've done your own work\n22:07 — What \"receiving authenticity\" actually looks like in practice\n27:01 — Intent vs. impact — who controls what\n29:48 — A recent example of Megan's authenticity not being received\n34:12 — Giving people grace for where they are on their journey\n39:25 — The urge to prove \"I know better,\" and giving yourself grace\n43:02 — Systemic vs. systematic: what happens when institutions know better and don't change\n47:25 — Boundaries as agreements, not arbitrary rules\n49:26 — Faith's story: parenting an autistic son and the real risk of breaking \"professionalism\"...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/GBHLYfR1d8vTP6gl28L07YDfK_AQkV3CJwsWm3AU-rM/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hNDE0/MTQ4YzMwYzNlM2Ix/YjIwMzY3NTZlMWIz/OWQ3ZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}