{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Beyond the Gray","title":"Why You Keep Going Back To Your Comfort Zone | DECIDE Part One | Ep. 23","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1488,"description":"You've tried to change before. Maybe it lasted 30 days. Maybe 90. Maybe even a year. And then you went right back. And the worst part wasn't the behavior. It was the voice in your head that said, \"See? You can't do this.\"\nIn Episode 23 of Beyond the Gray (Part 1 of 2), Kari Schwear breaks down why lasting change fails for most people and what actually makes it stick. She shares what she's never said publicly before: the nights she woke up outside sleepwalking, the mirror moment at 2am with two bottles of wine, and the promise she made to God on August 15th, 2016 that changed everything. This isn't motivation. This is the foundation. The psychology, the framework, and the exercises you need before anything else will work.\nIn this episode you'll hear:\n• Why change fails even when you want it badly (and why willpower isn't the problem)\n• The \"checkbox\" concept: how small moments compound into the one that finally breaks through\n• Stories Kari has never shared publicly: the sleepwalking, the blackouts, the confusion\n• The mirror moment at 2am that became the turning point\n• The pros and cons list exercise that made the choice obvious\n• \"Reasons to stay equaled comfort. Reasons to leave equaled my soul.\"\n• The \"Five Whys\" exercise: how to go five layers deep to find the why that actually holds\n• Why a surface-level why (\"I want to be healthier\") will never survive a craving\n• What AA got right: the white chip, one day at a time, and the power of commitment\n• Why Kari still doesn't say \"I'll never drink again\" and what she says instead\n• Three exercises to try this week before Part 2 drops\nThis is Part 1. Next week in Part 2, we go deeper into identity, daily habits, and how to actually become who you've committed to becoming. This is the DECIDE Method. Don't miss it.\n—————\nFREE RESOURCE\n28 Tools for Questioning the Drink: a free PDF (via Google Drive link), with practical tools you can use today. No judgment. No shame. Just real tools that work. (Works for any habit,...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/o3QgvEYD_EzW-1N7UZfNYTN4qL2oafyqZIw1SF69BYo/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9kYjNl/NjgxZTdjNDY2YjIw/NjdlNjBlYTUyMjgw/OTZjMy5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}