{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Trigger Proof Transmissions ","title":"Are You Making This Error Unintentionally?","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":94,"description":"I was working with a client yesterday who kept saying she just wanted to \"be happy.\" Another intention from someone who attended my last Overview Experience event:“I want to choose myself without feeling guilty”. Sounds reasonable enough to the untrained eye.That's when it hit me (again) how often we set intentions that seem healthy but are actually... well, impossible.You know the ones:\"I'm going to be the confident version of myself.\"\"I want to be fearless in my approach.\"\"My goal is to be happy and healthy.\"Look, these sound great. I've set them myself. But I've gotta be honest – these intentions are pretty much sh*t.Why Your Good Intentions Are Secretly Sabotaging YouWhen you set an intention to \"be happy,\" or to “choose yourself without guilt”you're unconsciously creating this fantasy where sadness and guilt can’t exist. Take a guess what happens to you when they do.You freeze and run away. (which is exactly what happened to the woman who finally chose herself–then ended having to confront feelings of guilt about it). This is why positive thinking fails you.Same deal with confidence – you're imagining some magical version of yourself that never feels doubt.I did this for years, by the way. Kept thinking I just needed to try harder.Why the therapy and personal development work wasn’t “working”. And here's what I've realized after working with hundreds of people (and cleaning up my own mess): At every level you grow, in every relationship you're in, in literally every situation you face, you'll always have something to fear and something to feel sad or guilty about.This is the reality of our ever-present shadow parts.It’s not about eliminating this resistance.It’s about expanding our capacity to feel them.That sounds kind of depressing when I put it like that. But weirdly, it's actually the most freeing truth I've ever embraced.What's Actually Happening I see this exact pattern all the time:You set an intention for “happiness/success” → inevitably feel...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/0BpSAOIWk835q3jn3GKBDXPaGPhJ-MM-oFHQMwR5A1Q/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9hMGEx/NjcxY2YyYzgyZTA2/NjQ1MTMyNmFkMWJl/MDAxZi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}