{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"You Must Be Some Kind of Therapist","title":"237. \"I Found My Real Father\": Adam B. Coleman on DNA, Faith, and Belonging","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":7016,"description":"Adam B. Coleman returns to the podcast to tell the story behind his powerful essay, \"I Found My Real Father.\" Adam spent his whole life believing his father was a Trinidadian man who paid child support but showed almost no interest in him. Then an Ancestry DNA test pointed to Mississippi, not Trinidad, and within weeks Adam was on the phone with cousins, an uncle, and a 76-year-old father who never knew he existed and now checks in every day.\nI wanted to know how Adam holds a discovery like this without bitterness. We talk about forgiveness, why so many neglected kids believe their treatment was their fault, and how Adam chose to learn from his parents' mistakes and raise his own son differently. Adam shares his path from agnosticism to Christianity, a prayer answered within hours, and the hardest Father's Day of his life, just weeks before he found his father.\nWe also explore truth-telling in families: why family secrets rob people of choices, how to be honest without weaponizing the truth, and what emotional honesty looks like for parents of trans-identified kids. Along the way, I open up about my own father, my struggles with the Old Testament, and how I make sense of my own gifts.\nAdam B. Coleman is the founder of Wrongspeak Publishing and Wrongspeak Films. He is the author of The Children We Left Behind and Black Victim to Black Victor. He also recently produced two documentaries: America's Moms and The Illegal Highways. He has previously appeared on this podcast on episodes 19 and 115, both speaking about his personal experiences as a black father in America.\nSubstack article: https://substack.com/home/post/p-214528092\nadambcoleman.substack.com\nwrongspeakfilms.com\nBooks mentioned in this episode:\nThe Children We Left Behind by Adam B. Coleman\nBlack Victim to Black Victor by Adam B. Coleman\nAll books mentioned on this podcast can be found in my new and improved Bookshop!\n[00:00:00] Start\n[00:01:27] Adam's Essay on Finding His Real Father\n[00:05:28] Karamo...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/7R2fJL6ksh0-aqhZGIKVghpF0n5-RelfaD139dcIBCQ/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS9zaG93/LzI1NzQ0LzE2NDQy/NzA3NjktYXJ0d29y/ay5qcGc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}