{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Dad Manual","title":"Ep 25: From Chaos to Peace: A Journey to Becoming a Great Stepdad","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2599,"description":"What if the most qualified stepdad in the room is the one who almost didn't make it out alive?Andrew Adams didn't plan on becoming a parent. He didn't plan 12 years of opiate addiction, multiple overdoses, or a near-fatal car accident on a highway at 75 miles per hour. But today, Andrew is stepfather to three kids, engaged to the man he loves, and one of the most grounded human beings I've had the privilege of sitting across from.Key Takeaways:Why the sudden loss of structure at age 11 became the catalyst for Andrew's years-long addiction spiralHow a neurodivergent brain chasing relief through drugs becomes a 12-year trap.Why \"neutrality\" is not indifference and how it became Andrew's superpower as a stepdadThe danger of entering parenthood to \"fix\" something in yourself and the resentment it breedsHow eight-plus years of deep personal work across 12-step programs, yoga, and spiritual practice transformed Andrew into the partner and father figure he is todayWhy Andrew never tries to discipline Dylan's kids and what he does insteadThe two-lane framework Andrew uses with children (and coaching clients alike): vision or fear, pick a directionHow to let your relationship with stepchildren build organically without pressureWhy kids who feel like a burden are usually carrying energy their parents chose to put on themThe single best piece of advice for anyone stepping into a stepparent role: take it slow, and let them come to youThis is a fatherhood podcast episode about what it actually takes to show for yourself first, and then for the family that finds its way to your door.If you enjoyed The Dad Manual, leave us a rating on your podcast app! If you loved it, share this episode with a Dad! Send your questions to dadmanualpodcast@gmail.com. Connect with Tony Cooper: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetonycooper/00:00 Andrew on knowing — or not — you want kids01:28 Tony introduces Andrew's full story02:37 Childhood, a pastor dad, and sudden freedom at 1105:02 Why drugs...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/RhesufeLfq-KH7W3Ni1tcYfxGDlnUQ1BXbcDk7-CgJk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8zMWVh/NTk0NDViNmUyYWZl/Zjk4NDk3NWVjMWEy/NWYxYi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}