{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Know Your Children with Rav Shlomo Katz","title":"11. My Needs vs. My Child’s Needs","html":"<iframe width=\"100%\" height=\"180\" frameborder=\"no\" scrolling=\"no\" seamless src=\"https://share.transistor.fm/e/4c9ceff1\"></iframe>","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3411,"description":"In parenting, we want to believe our love is perfect — automatic, limitless, and always putting our child first. But real life has a way of testing that fantasy.\nRav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David unpack a surprisingly relieving truth: a parent can genuinely love their child… and still have moments where their own needs collide with the child’s needs. Sometimes it’s obvious (work, exhaustion, basic functioning). Sometimes it’s subtler (wanting quiet when your child needs connection, wanting “my plan” when your child needs “me”).\nWith honesty, humor, and a lot of compassion, we explore:\nWhy this tension is normal and why denying it makes us less self-aware\nThe difference between a true need vs. laziness/ta’avah\nHow “timing” and communication can become a real avodah\nWhy kids experience reality differently (and how that changes everything)\nThis isn’t a guilt shiur. It’s a clarity shiur — the kind that helps you become more present, more balanced, and more loving in the moments that actually matter.\n---------\nFor more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.com\nJoin Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_t\nChapters\n00:00 Opening and Introducing the Shiur Topic\n01:05 Natural Parental Love at Birth\n04:07 Striving for the Perfect Parent\n13:26 Question of Absolute Unconditional Love\n18:08 Recognizing Unconscious Preference\n21:13 “My Need vs My Child’s Need” Examples\n25:44 The “One Candy Left” Test\n28:31 Alone Time, Date Night, and the Child’s Experience\n33:16 Sleep Training as a Case Study\n35:49 The Pillow at 2:00am: Need or Laziness?\n37:54 A Parent Has Needs Too\n40:12 Needs vs. Laziness/Ta’avah (The Real Birur)\n42:52 The Oxygen Mask Analogy\n44:40 Timing as a Tool for Discernment\n46:25 Communication: Helping Kids Understand Reality\n48:05 Love Isn’t Free of Personal Motives\n50:58 Generational Shift in Mom Self-Care\n52:15 Father’s Old-School Wisdom and Child Fear","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/1kIczSvIsSLQhU43EiAuIwIwZqNhtmqJjeK1o3ZXq5s/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8yYTUw/ODM2ZTE4ZTk5ZWI0/OTFhZTUwYmNkNzli/Y2RlZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}