{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Know Your Children with Rav Shlomo Katz","title":"19. The Parenting Mistake of Confusing Empathy with Permission","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3369,"description":"Rav Shlomo Katz and the women of Shirat David continue exploring one of the most misunderstood יסודות in parenting: the difference between acknowledgment and enabling.Building on the concept of chush ha’ta’am—a child’s inner sense of preference and desire—Rav Shlomo explains why a child’s feelings must be recognized as real, even when their actions can’t be accepted. Just as we would never deny a child’s physical reality, we can’t dismiss their emotional world without causing deeper harm.Through practical examples—from food preferences to more complex emotional and החיים situations—this shiur lays out a clear framework: first acknowledge, then guide. Skipping that first step doesn’t create discipline—it creates distance.The challenge is learning how to validate what a child feels without reinforcing what may not be healthy or appropriate. And that delicate balance is where real chinuch begins.----------For more Shuirim and Music from Rav Shlomo Katz, visit: https://ravshlomokatz.comJoin Rav Shlomo Katz's WhatsApp Community: https://chat.whatsapp.com/KHKOhhPaeHx5Kb74WL9L9a?mode=ems_copy_tCHAPTERS00:00 Sponsorship Announcements01:11 Recap: Food Discipline & Chush HaTa’am03:51 Understanding the Sense of Taste07:48 Coke Zero & Real vs. Perceived Desire14:36 Personal Story: Discovering Taste as a Child17:25 Physical Limits: Nails, Hair, and Reality19:33 Encouraging Kids to Explore Preferences21:44 Toy Guns & Boundaries in Chinuch24:01 Desire Is Real: First Step in Parenting29:00 Acknowledging Kids’ Preferences Beyond Food33:53 Elevating Above Physical Desire35:17 Responding to Extreme Emotional States36:39 Intermarriage & Real Feelings vs. Values41:40 Know Emotions Before Trying to Remove Them43:58 Balancing Food Talk in the Home","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/1kIczSvIsSLQhU43EiAuIwIwZqNhtmqJjeK1o3ZXq5s/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8yYTUw/ODM2ZTE4ZTk5ZWI0/OTFhZTUwYmNkNzli/Y2RlZC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}