{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Secure Husband","title":"Your Dismissive-Avoidant Wife Chooses Everything Over You","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":1126,"description":"Do you feel like everything in your wife’s life comes before you?\nOn the surface, it all sounds reasonable.\nShe is busy.\nShe is tired.\nShe has kids, work, and responsibilities.\nBut inside, something feels off.\nBecause it is not just that she is busy.\nIt is that everything else gets priority over you.\nNot once in a while.\nNot only during hard seasons.\nBut as a pattern.\nThe message you feel is quiet but painful:\nThere is space for everyone and everything, except you.\nThis episode explains what is happening inside a dismissive-avoidant nervous system. It explains why dissociation becomes the default. It explains why kids, career, routines, and tasks become safe substitutes for intimacy. It also explains why this pattern slowly turns an anxious-preoccupied husband into someone who abandons himself just to stay connected.\nDismissive avoidance is not about strength or independence.\nIt is about disconnection.\nMany dismissive-avoidant wives stay out of their bodies to stay safe. Feelings live in the body. Vulnerability lives there too. To avoid those states, the nervous system learns to stay busy, focused, productive, and needed.\nThis episode explains why good things like kids, work, fitness, and service often become tools of avoidance. These things offer purpose without vulnerability. They offer connection without emotional exposure. They keep intimacy at a distance while looking responsible and praised from the outside.\nYou will learn why children often become the safest place for attachment energy. Kids do not require emotional mutuality. They do not ask to see her inner world. That makes them feel safer than adult intimacy.\nThis episode also explains how the marriage slowly gets pushed to the margins. Kids come first. Work comes first. Schedules come first. Exhaustion comes first. The relationship comes last. When you try to name the loneliness, the conversation shuts down.\nYou will hear how this affects you as the husband. Your body reacts first. You feel tension,...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/YJmHpXqr3wfrhL5fsdmtlNEm6ml1FboHb1lRAj0byEY/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8xM2Vj/NGY4MTMxZDhhNmE5/ZGI4YzVmMjNmZjRh/YWU4MC5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}