{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"The Dad Manual","title":"Ep 29: Raising British Kids Across an Ocean, With Alton Byrd","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":2879,"description":"Alton Byrd grew up without a father, then raised two kids across an ocean while playing pro basketball in the UK. This one is about figuring it out with no manual.\nAlton joins Tony to talk about a fatherhood honestly. He's talks about the divorce, about the years he lived a plane ride away from his children, and about what he got wrong. What comes through is hard-won and simple: kids don't remember the stuff you buy them, they remember your time.\nWhat you'll take from this episode:Why \"what they want is your time\" is the lesson that took him longest to learnParenting from a distance after a divorce, and owning your part in itRaising kids who are \"very different\" without comparing themMoving from parent-of-children to parent-of-adults, and letting them leadThe three things he'd tell any father: listen, listen to what they aren't saying, and love them no matter whatIf you enjoyed The Dad Manual, leave us a rating on your podcast app! If you loved it, share this episode with a Dad! Send your questions to dadmanualpodcast@gmail.com. \nConnect with Tony Cooper: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thetonycooper/\n00:00 Cold open: what they really want\n00:29 Meet Alton Byrd\n02:00 British kids and the name Miles\n07:30 Did he always want to be a dad?\n09:30 Growing up without a father\n13:30 Traveling the world with a baby\n17:40 Why kids talk about mom\n22:40 Figuring out fatherhood alone\n26:00 The divorce and owning his part\n28:00 The hardest lesson: time over things\n33:50 When your kids become adults\n42:40 \"You owe me nothing\"\n43:40 Advice for dads in transition","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/RhesufeLfq-KH7W3Ni1tcYfxGDlnUQ1BXbcDk7-CgJk/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8zMWVh/NTk0NDViNmUyYWZl/Zjk4NDk3NWVjMWEy/NWYxYi5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}