{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Toddler Toolkit","title":"Why Your Toddler Looks Like They’re Ignoring You (And What To Do Instead)","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":971,"description":"When Your Toddler Looks at You and Still Does It (What’s Really Happening + What to Do)Mentioned episodes:From Throwing to Lining Up: What Your Child’s Play Is Really Telling You with Ruth VercoeThe Missing Piece in Gentle Parenting (And Why It Feels So Hard)🎉New YouTube Channel🎉: @TheHeatherSchalk\"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's HERE!This episode explains why toddlers sometimes make eye contact, hear “stop,” and keep touching, spitting, or hitting anyway—and why treating it like defiance can escalate things. It covers four common reasons underneath the behavior: nervous system activation (impulse control goes offline), a connection check fueled by uncertainty, a reinforcement loop where repeated reacting becomes stimulating and words lose weight without follow-through, and normal developmental experimentation with cause and effect. Instead of yelling, threatening, or repeating yourself, the focus is on interrupting the pattern by changing the structure: move closer, use fewer words, block access, move out of range, or change the environment. A preschool example shows how removing a child from an overstimulating area stopped throwing immediately by shifting state through leadership, not punishment.00:00 Toddlers Ignore You00:42 Common Scenarios01:36 Why Advice Backfires02:42 Four Hidden Drivers02:58 Nervous System Overload04:02 Connection Check05:45 Reinforcement Loop06:48 Developmental Experimenting07:57 Break The Reactivity Loop09:35 Preschool Example10:30 Hitting At Home12:54 Shift The Pattern14:12 Recap And Closing------------------------------------------------------\"If you’re struggling with toddler tantrums and behaviors like hitting & not listening... I have a free guide for you! It’s called The Tantrum and Behavior Guide: 7 Toddler Struggles and How to Solve Them Fast—It's...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/CNBeZkfYZ4gDlyE04BT0_xz-qWiZz2KtNqqjx7c7S1I/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS80YmFl/ZWY5YmMwYTk0MjM2/NWNlOGMxMmRmOGEw/ZTM0Ny5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}