{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Hidden Value with David Sherry","title":"Managing Your Energy in Meetings and Conversations","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":459,"description":"When I talk with clients, there’s always a dance – where is this conversation most exciting for them? Where is my excitement? What is productive? Where are we going?I notice the subtle ways in which my body opens up, or closes down, how certain topics create constriction in me or the other person. This type of awareness can itself be draining; rather than being fully relaxed in a conversation, I’m paying attention to too many different cues.For a long time I was really exhausted by meetings. It wasn’t until I noticed that I had this dual process going on: I was speaking, while also trying to pay attention to how I was being seen while I was speaking.This is surprisingly common – you notice that you’re both trying to pay attention while also worrying about how you’re seen. This is especially tough when you’re leading meetings and you feel like it’s getting out of your control. Now I can get into a pure awareness type quality where when I speak with others I simply direct my focus on them. There’s no more dual track, and when I speak I speak with my own energy going towards them. Dropping the need to “see” how I’m being seen. How do you do that? No Agenda MindsetYears ago, I had a (temporary) podcast that was called No Agenda. The name came from a Tao like idea of having no view about where things need or should go. When you have less of an agenda for others, things can unfold naturally. Having an agenda for someone else, we feel them trying to push us in a particular direction, and most times when we feel pushed we push back and it creates resistance. No Agenda as a mindset is about creating less resistance in conversations. When you drop your agenda (needing to create an impact) you also drop the need to track your impact as much. Of course we all have some type of intention or agenda, but the more you’re in your own being as you speak, without it needing to make an impact, the less you care about the way you’re received.Often the better you feel as you speak,...","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/ufXRxIaLbuuk1UMIGN-aS5DjQyILK9T9SkJ8bwFQvh8/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS82ZDgw/NGUyMmJiNjQ1ZTRm/ZDA2MjUyOTQ1ZDNi/MjJkOS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}