{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":" Real Talk: Men, Divorce & Rebuilding","title":"Repurposing Pain Through Faith, Therapy & Discipline | Rob Tomale Interview","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":3999,"description":"Host Lawrence Flowers welcomes Rob Tomale, author of “Pain Repurpose: Journey of Healing from the Grief of Divorce,” to discuss men’s healing after divorce through faith, therapy, physical discipline, and accountability. Rob shares how public expectations around his marriage intensified toxic shame, how he stayed in church while broken, and how therapy exposed his own patterns—people-pleasing, oversharing, low self-worth, and lack of boundaries. They explore why men avoid therapy, the benefits of fitness for mental health, and even how low testosterone can affect emotions. Rob explains accepting God’s direction to “close the door,” setting firm boundaries, and how forgiveness differs from reconciliation, including forgiving before an apology. He encourages men to grieve, reclaim focus, pursue purpose, and seek brotherhood and community.00:00 Welcome to Real Talk01:59 Meet Rob Tomale04:26 Why This Podcast Exists05:26 Shame After Divorce07:46 Staying in Church Hurt12:24 Healing and Accountability17:59 Why Men Avoid Therapy22:31 Fitness as Recovery29:17 Faith and Closing Doors31:00 Asking God for a Sign32:56 Door Closed Boundary Set33:46 Divorce Papers Answered Prayer35:26 Hearing God Shift37:19 Idol To Alignment39:11 Empath Learning Boundaries41:06 Forgiveness Not Reconciliation48:18 Acceptance After Divorce52:32 Grief Is Normal59:18 Reclaim Focus Heal Community01:05:25 Final Encouragement Outro","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/BIzb62yuAghLhvClzzczbP3rw8tB8EgDq-nh1oEa9a0/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8zNmMy/ZjZhNWYyZTdlOTJh/ZWIwZTcyNzYxZDM4/MjFjYS5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}