{"type":"rich","version":"1.0","provider_name":"Transistor","provider_url":"https://transistor.fm","author_name":"Notes to Her","title":"Note 78: Okay, But What Do You Want?","html":"","width":"100%","height":180,"duration":844,"description":"Some women can tell you what everyone around them needs and go blank when somebody asks what they want. In Note 78, Yaya talks about how years of \"I'm fine with whatever\" quietly turn into feeling stuck, and how to find the woman you were before everyone needed something from you. \n\nThe episode ends with three questions to ask yourself and two small practices you can start this week.\n\n\nInside this episode:\n\nHow \"I'm fine with whatever\" starts as kindness and ends in a blank when somebody asks what you want\nWhere the habit comes from, including being praised for being the easy one\nWhy being needed can become your only proof that you matter\nThe three costs: not knowing what you like, a tiredness sleep does not fix, and feeling stuck\nWhy guilt shows up when you start saying what you want, and why it fades with practice\nThree questions for meeting the woman you were before everyone needed something from you\nA twenty-minute practice and a one-real-answer-a-day practice to start this week\nIf you feel stuck and want company while you work this out, join the Get Unstuck Challenge inside Slay Society. It is a 7-day challenge for the woman who feels stuck, and your first week is free. Here's the link to join: https://www.skool.com/theconfidentlyherco-4672. Save this Note for the woman who needs it.","thumbnail_url":"https://img.transistorcdn.com/YSmE1jM0mc5E6hI6jBHRbXBHfMjyueQjBn7vCt4gttA/rs:fill:0:0:1/w:400/h:400/q:60/mb:500000/aHR0cHM6Ly9pbWct/dXBsb2FkLXByb2R1/Y3Rpb24udHJhbnNp/c3Rvci5mbS8wYTNl/MzFjYzRjZGYyMDE0/NjkxNDgxZjJlOWFi/ZDhjYy5wbmc.webp","thumbnail_width":300,"thumbnail_height":300}